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Sunday, March 2, 2008

decisions decisions decisions

It seems as though, the sooner the wedding approaches I can't make any decisions. The biggest decision that I am struggling with is the guest list. From the beginning Brandon has always wanted a small wedding, but I have always pictured having my friends and family I love most be at my wedding ( which we both have a big family and friend circle). So here is the issue.......Brandon wants a small wedding, I don't. My parents said that they would give us money for a house if we cut the wedding list by a lot. OK- let's step into reality here, IT WON'T HAPPEN. Like I said, Brandon and I both have large families, the guest list right there with family alone would be over 100 people. A small wedding to me is um....like 50-80 people. THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN! So- through out my days I somehow always come to the issue of the guest list. Whether I am at work, school, home, driving, wherever it may be, it always comes up in my head. Some days I think, -oh yeah, lets cut back the guest list and take the rest of the money to put down for a house, and then I slap myself and say...HECK NO, ITS IMPOSSIBLE! I just feel that there are a lot of people that I want at my wedding who I truly care about and if I didn't invite them, I would feel bad and upset. I realize that on your wedding day you barely remember anything, you won't say Hi to everyone there, blah blah blah- at least that's what I have been hearing a lot lately, but at the same time, I realize that, but knowing that they were there on my special day means a lot. I want to make myself and Brandon happy with the guest list issue, but I feel as though that might be difficult. The save the dates are supposed to go out in the next several weeks which means a decision needs to be made in the next several weeks- I don't know if I can do that. AHHHHHHHH! So I know this is silly, but if ya'll could pray for a peace of mind for me with this issue I'd appreciate it.

Now onto another issue, ha ha. I promise I'm really not a crazy messed up person. Lately, everyone I come across has been asking me " where are you going to live when you get married" and my response EVERY TIME is......... I HAVE NO CLUE! ( I made a post about this issue last month I believe) We really don't want to live in an apartment, but it looks like we will be. Which I am OK with, but at the same time the thought of a house is sooooo NICE! I think we found a promising place to live and we are going there tomorrow. My aunt lived in these apartments for a while and she liked them. We can find a 2 bedroom/ 1 bathroom with a patio for DIRT cheap and we are still living in a great area. It's in the neighborhood of Pecan Grove ( for all of you Houston/Sugar Land natives, you know where this is). Anyway, please pray that this works out for us and we can afford the marry life soon.

Hope everyone had a great weekend and have a great monday!

4 comments:

The Doty's Dish said...

hmmm...well you know, to save on money you can invite everyone to the wedding and just don't let them come to the reception...cuz that is where all the money gets spent...just kidding...but really it would save you money.

rOxaNne bRaDfoRd said...

prayin!

ps- unfortunately, with marriage come wayyy too many difficult decisions. just pray about it, and go with your heart. seriously. it's YOUR day, babe. that's all i got to say. brandon will just be happy knowing he's FINALLYYYY getting to flipping marry you! and you will be happy knowing that you have the people that you love the most with you to share a super awesome moment!!

anyway, love ya and goood luck with everything!

oh..one more thing... brian and i didn't know where we were gonna live until like...2 weeks before the wedding. i just moved in with him and an apartment full of unpacked boxes for a few months while we looked around. and then we moved to another city. and lived in a hotel for a month. and now we have lived in a cute townhome for 6 months and are about to start house-hunting. so, FYI...feeling super settled doesn't ALWAYS come right after you're married haha.

love <3

Julie said...

I'll definitely be praying for you guys. Believe me, I understand having to make all of those decisions. Just keep praying about it. The Lord will give you a peace about it when the right decision comes to you. You can always do what we did on the guest list: invited everyone and then prayed that getting married on a Friday night the weekend before Thanksgiving would keep people away! haha! At least that's what dad was praying...we still had almost 300, but it was wonderful.

Valerie said...

catherine's engaged and i'm hearing all the same stories from her! no doubt your wedding will be beautiful! :)